Finding your surrogate mother is a bit different from finding an egg donor or sperm donor. You will not be weighing through a mountain of data, but rather more than likely, listening to the agency liaison describe the available surrogate mothers. Remember this is a deeply personal relationship you are about to embark upon. Give this process the respect it deserves.
This article dovetails nicely with “How to Find Your Surrogate Mother.”
1) Google search surrogate mother
2) Complete applications for agencies with surrogate mothers
3) Speak with agency liaison about available surrogate mothers
4) Select a surrogate mother to explore further
5) Arrange a telephone interview
6) Find someone to participate in the call with you
7) Develop a list of questions to ask the surrogate mother
8) Consider what you might like to share with the surrogate
9) Conduct the interview
10) Debrief with trusted other
11) Decide if you want to have to a face to face interview
12) Schedule interview
13) Determine venue
14) Conduct the interview
15) Debrief and write down your observations
16) If she is the one for you, find out if you passed her test
17) If yes, celebrate
18) If no, complete steps 9 – 18 again
If you found your surrogate, you have done an amazing job. Finding your surrogate is half the battle of having your baby. Be sure to celebrate or reward yourself richly!
Your surrogate mother will now need clearance from your doctor before you can get started and before legal documents are reviewed and signed.
Lisa J Lafave, PhD, MBA, ACC
The Surrogacy Coach from Surrogacy Rocks
CEO & Founder of Coaching Rocks, LLC
ASingle Mom By Choice Raising Surrogacy Twin Boys
Written in My Little Brick in University Heights, Ohio