If you decide to embark on the surrogacy trail, you may well have some extra DNA that belongs to you, and you will have to decide what to do with it. You may choose to store it for use at a later date, you may toss it, or you may choose to donate it to another individual or couple, who is also having trouble conceiving. You may have donor sperm, embryos or even donor eggs.
When my boys were about a year to a year and a half old, my Mom said to me, “Lisa, why don’t you try for a girl?” The question knocked my socks off. I was truly stunned. The idea of a little girl was truly compelling, but I clearly had my hands full. I simply let the time pass and just kept raising my boys, knowing in my heart of hearts that they were enough. My heart was full with them and my resources were limited. I decided this lady could lead a better life with just the two of them! I mean heck I only have two hands!
When you look at them, so precious and vulnerable, how could I possibly divide my attention again and take on another child?
So in my case I have donor embryos that have been frozen since my boys were born. It is one of my greatest wishes that my frozen embryos get a chance to live. By donating them to another who desperately wants them, the donor, my embryos and I all have a chance to get what we want.
It’s rather interesting that my boys are now 5 1/2 and I am just getting involved in my first serious entre into donating the remaining two embryos that I have as a result of my surrogacy venture. I am not donating anonymously, but more than likely to a woman, who we can call Marie, that I met about a year ago.
Marie has a 4 year old, who also has blonde hair and blue eyes, as does she. Both my boys are blondies, with blue eyes. When you see all three of the children playing together, they look like tripletts! She is a Single Mom By Choice (Single Mom By Choice), as am I. I think most of you already realize that about me and my family, but that may have failed to reach all of you, so it bore repeating!
Marie is trying her last round of IUI this Fourth of July weekend, after nothing short of sure tenacity regarding repeated attempts at trying to conceive, once again with her own DNA and donor sperm. If that fails, and I am rooting for her, then she will take a serious look at trying to conceive with my embryos, which were created with youthful DNA and see if she can carry to term in this fashion.
If this process leads to a live birth, her new baby and my children will be diblings, in which the donor egg is the common link. Children born from one common source of Donor DNA are called diblings. Diblings are donor siblings. As things proceed, I will keep you up to date!