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Your destiny – Your purpose – Your dream baby

July 11, 2018 by Lisa Lafave

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Your destiny, your purpose, your dream baby!

 

So you are trying to fulfill your destiny, but you are having challenges.  I’ll tell you what, you are not the first woman, or first man, who has had trouble creating a baby!  Your baby is on its way.  It’s just taking a bit longer than you expected.  Hang in there.  Keep trying and keep your chin up.  You know what they say.  Everything in its own time.  Your baby too will come when the time is right, or when the stars they are aligned.

Never Forget The DreamThe more you can hold onto the idea that a baby will be yours in the future, the more likely you are to ride that emotional roller coaster well.  Remember in this day and age, you can bring a baby home, a number of ways.

If you keep yourself open to having  a baby via alternate means, you are more than likely to raise a child, in your future.  It’s really true.  Science has really progressed.  No one really needs to be childless these days.

You can do many things to try to enhance that fertile journey.  You can eat better.  You can exercise more.  You can reduce toxins in your home environment.  You can also work on reducing anxiety, and stress.  You can strive for balance.  There are multiple apps out there, that you can use to help you with each one of these endeavors.

In an attempt to cool out, you could take a yoga class, or learn how to meditate, or maybe just take your honey and go on awesome well deserved vacation.   If a big vacation is out of the question, how about a mini one, for a long weekend.  If flying to some amazing destination is not in the cards, how about a trip, just a hour or so, away from home.  Just getting into new surroundings can do you a world of good.  It can take the edge off, and allow you to proceed toward the next logical step, that just might bring a darling little baby into your world.

One thing you want to try to avoid is being in so much angst, because you don’t have your baby, that you can’t enjoy the things you do have.  When you are childless, you are footloose and fancy free!  Once you have that baby, you will never again be unencumbered.  You will always have responsibility, and you will always be looking out for the well-being of your child.  Their needs always come first and foremost.

May the Joy of a Dream Baby Be YoursIf this is your first baby, then you have never been through a sleepless night, nursing your feverish baby.  You’ve never had to drop everything at work, and run to the school, because your child is vomiting.  You’ve never had to cancel plans, because the babysitter isn’t going to know how to deal with the awful stomach pains and diarrhea your child has.  You just go out on the town, unless you or your date is feeling under the weather.  It’s just so simple.  Again, footloose and fancy free.  Enjoy it while it lasts!

If it’s time to enlarge your family, you have a good idea of what you are getting yourself into.  Remember, you will never again have the same amount of time for the children you already have.  Enjoy these precious moments.  You will never pass this way again.  It just might be that it’s your destiny to have a larger family.  You may not feel fulfilled, until your family grows to a certain size.  Some parents just love having little ones around, and will take as many as they can get their arms around.

DREAM UNTIL YOUR DREAM BECOMES YOUR LIFEI know of one woman, who was trying to conceive her ninth child in her mid- forties.  She just wasn’t done, and she was sure of it.  She had a mad hankering for another baby, and her spouse felt the same way.  So the two of them were at it, until one came along.  And you know what?  By George, they had a healthy little boy.  So I say, “God Bless them!” It’s none of my business how many children they have.  Yet some people were giving them a really hard time about stretching their budget, and their other resources once again.  These people felt like it was their mission to keep this couple from procreating again.  Some people.  Anyway, with the ninth baby, this couple finally felt complete.

Your Destiny is your Dream BabyHow large anybody’s family is is a very personal matter.  Others would say it’s up to God, and leave it at that.  When you think about it, what is the right size family for you?  Do you want the same size, as the family you grew up in?  Or do you have some different plans?  How will family size affect your life, as the head of the family?  Do you, and your spouse have similar plans?  Heck, I hope so.  If you want 10, and he wants 2, it just might create some marital conflict.  Hopefully, you came to some mutual agreement, on this matter, before the nuptials.

Do you have any sense about what the spread of ages from top to bottom should be, between your eldest and youngest, and how quickly the children should come along in between?  Some have children like stair steps, one after the next.  Others like to have a child every three years, to give the youngest a bit of time, before a sibling comes along, and literally takes their spot in Mama’s lap.

give it everything you've gotI knew one woman who had 8 children in 9 years.  Sounds wild.  However, she had two sets of twins which meant 6 pregnancies in 9 years, not 8.  Still it would entirely rock my world to have no children and then 8, 9 years later.

I know it seems a little funny TT is think about having so many children, when you are having difficulty creating just one.  But once you crack the code, the sky may be the limit.  You just have to figure out how to have that first one, and then just rinse and repeat!

So even if you are having challenges, know that a baby can be yours, in this lifetime.  We just have to figure out how to get you one!  Your are not living in dark ages. There are plenty of methods to help you create your own baby, and there are ways of using others’ DNA, if you can’t use yours or your partner’s.  There is also adoption, international adoption and foster to adopt. So cheer up, a baby is surely on the way for you, if you want one badly enough.

Once you have one baby, you can consider whether or not you want to grow your family.  It’s awfully nice for your precious little one to have a sibling.  Children learn so much from their brothers and sisters.  Why don’t you make sure to get one for your little baby?

If you stick with it, I’m sure your destiny will be fulfilled.  In fulfilling your destiny, you will create a more purposeful life.  Research suggests that purpose creates happiness.  Show me a man or a woman with purpose, and I will show you a happy person.  First, let’s get that baby in your arms, so you can go home!

 

Never Give Up the Dream,

 

Lisa

 

Lisa J Lafave, PhD, eMBA, ACC, BCC

CEO & Founder of Coaching Rocks

The Fertility Coach at Coaching Rocks

Single Mom By Choice Raising Surrogacy Twin Boys

Written in My Little Brick in University Heights, Ohio

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Keep Your Dream Alive

July 9, 2018 by Lisa Lafave

Keep Your Dream Alive

Keep Your Dream Alive

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Your Reward Is Your Baby

July 7, 2018 by Lisa Lafave

Your Reward Is Your Baby

Your Reward Is Your Baby

I know you feel like you are doing a lot of hard work, to get your baby.  And I know that it so very disappointing every month, that the pregnancy test shows you did not conceive, and did not achieve your objective.  I know it is even worse, when you did conceive, and the baby didn’t stick.  And worse yet, when you get further along your journey and miscarry.  These loses are all traumatic.  But you must get through these loses to get to the actual baby, that is meant to be your forever baby.

I know for some the natural conception thing is not meant to be.  You may wrestle with that idea quite a bit.  We all quite naturally want our own child, coming from our own DNA.  But sometimes it just can’t happen, and if you are in this boat you will have to decide what is best for you, 1) no baby at all, or  2) if you have the financial wherewithall, you might pick IVF, with someone else’s DNA, or 3) you might even choose to farm the whole process out, and have a baby through surrogacy, or 4) you might prefer to go the adoption route, and help out a child, who has no parent at the ready.  If you choose adoption, you will have to decide what to focus on, domestic adoption, international adoption or foster to adopt. Once you decide where you belong, you can move through your next paces.  They may not be easy, but you can work on what is before you, in order to bring your dream baby home.

No matter what option you pick, Coaching Rocks can be at your side, to urge you on, and help you through your process.  You could work with someone one on one, or in a group.  You can contact us and arrange a complimentary Discovery Call to see if you feel like Coaching Rocks is the right coaching resource for you.

Never forget your dream baby is at the end of the road!  When you do conceive, and it sticks, and the pregnancy goes well, your reward is a darling little baby boy, or baby girl, or maybe even both!  You will be on the top of the world.  You’ll want to sing it out to the moon and the stars!  Your dream baby has arrived.

Who wouldn’t be delighted with a baby, with a darling little nose, a smile like your partner’s, and eyebrows like your father’s?  This baby is indeed your reward for all the extra effort and all the labor you went through to bring this baby home, not matter what the method.  It’s truly amazing how often adopted children, or surrogacy babies, with no DNA in common with their parents, can grow to look like their family members.

Once you have your baby, and care for your baby, it truly does not matter to you how you came by your child.  You take the child as your own.  People often place far to much emphasis on DNA.

How many of you are animal lovers? How many actually have animals?  You don’t have any DNA in common with your pet, be it a dog, a cat, a snake, a goat, or a bunny rabbit.  But you still may have a deep love for your animal.  You may have a trusting, and fun loving relationship with that animal, that does not depend on a DNA connection.

I use beloved pets, as an example, because they are family.  They are a close second to children.  We care about how they feel.  We care about the quality of their day.  We want them to have a satisfied tummy and a good night’s sleep.   We take them on outtings with us.  They are there for us, when we low.  We spend our good times, and our bad times with them.  They know us best.  We intervene, as best we can, when our animals are sick, and we grieve, when they die.  Oh how we grieve!  There is really nothing like losing a trusted pet.

Rightly or wrongly, many of us treat our animals like family, or like children.  Many of us even refer to our beloved pets, as our babies, or our fur babies.  In fact, it makes no difference to us that they are a different species.  We actually relish in the differences.  We don’t need them to be from the same tribe as ours to love them with the intensity that we do.  I believe the love comes from the relationship.  I believe you love what, and who you care for, DNA aside.

Interestingly, many of you probably coupled up, moved in together, and then got a dog, or a cat. Your fur baby was your first baby, your first commitment.  Your first attempt at keeping a beloved other alive, through thick and thin, right in the the midst of all of your other obligations.  It was kind of like your “starter baby.”  If that went well, and you could negotiate with one another, about how to take care of that family member, maybe you felt like you just might be ready for a real live bouncing baby boy or girl.  That dog or cat may have been the guinea pig, to see if the two of you could work together well enough to take care of that pet.  That pet may have been a harbinger of things to come, more specifically, babies to come.

Have you ever noticed how some people get married, and divorce just before you thought they might have that first baby? Well, fortunately, they figured out they weren’t matched well, and were not up to the task of parenting a child together, so they split up, before they had one.  In my estimation, they weren’t up for the big commitment of having a child together.  Marriage, and having a house, and a pet together were one thing, but having a child together is the real commitment.

Most of you reading this are ready for that child, singly, or coupled up, you want that baby now.  My point in bringing up the animals is just to remind you that, if you can’t use your own DNA, you will still be able to fall in love deeply, with your child.  It really can be okay.  It really can be no big deal.  It all depends on how you decide to view it.

Once you have that baby that you’ve dreamed about for so long, you are off to the races!  It’s one bottle or one breastfeeding moment after the next, and one burping session after the next, and then one diaper after the next.   You’ll be doing one bath after the next, one clothing change after the next, and so on, and so forth.  You and your baby will be giggling and smiling at one another in no time. You will be continually showing off your baby to family and friends, and even to strangers, or passerbys.  Your baby will become your pride and joy.  As the days pass by, you will fall deeply in love, with your little treasure.  He or she will be the apple of your eye, and the fruit of your labor.  I think you will agree that this little angel was worth all the bother after all.  All those trials and tribulations will seem quite trivial, when you have that little one sitting in your lap, or snuggling in your arms, about to slip off to sleep.

Next thing you know, you will be going to outings at the local playground, Mommy and Me Meetups, swimming lessons, gymnastics, and music classes.  You will be so fully immersed in your new life with your baby, you will hardly even remember what life was like, without your little one.

So remember, your dream baby is your reward, for all the hard work that you must do to get that baby, and bring him, or her home, to the little nest you have so carefully prepared.

 

Never Forget the Dream and Leap Into Action!

 

Lisa

 

Lisa J Lafave, PhD, eMBA, ACC, BCC

CEO & Founder of Coaching Rocks

The Fertility Coach At Coaching Rocks

Single Mother by Choice of Surrogacy Twin Boys

Written In My Little Brick in University Hts, Ohio

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So You Want A Baby

July 5, 2018 by Lisa Lafave

So You Want A Baby

So You Want A Baby

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Success is just around the corner

June 29, 2018 by Lisa Lafave

Success is just around the corner

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Never Forget The Dream

June 29, 2018 by Lisa Lafave

Never Forget The Dream

Never Forget The Dream

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Leap Into Action

June 29, 2018 by Lisa Lafave

Leap Into Action

Leap Into Action

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May the Joy of a Dream Baby Be Yours

June 29, 2018 by Lisa Lafave

May the Joy of a Dream Baby Be Yours

“May the Joy of a Dream Baby Be Yours ~ Lisa Lafave”

I can remember when I was in the dreaming phase.  I really wanted to move forward and get my babies, but how was always the question.  There were so many options and one could really only devote oneself to one method at a time, or so it seemed to me.

Never Forget The DreamI would imagine their little faces, and their little bodies, their hair, their eyes, and how they would interact with me, and I with them.  I could almost feel it!  I could certainly see them or many possibilities in my mind’s eye.  In fact, when I was going through my adoption phase, I saw hundred’s of children in my very own private imagination.  I would see them fast and furious, one after the next.  I would say, “No, that’s not my baby,” and then I would consider the next one.  It was, as if, it was my job to find my own individual baby, out of thousands waiting for a forever home.  I just couldn’t find mine.

DREAM UNTIL YOUR DREAM BECOMES YOUR LIFEI had told my family and friends that I was adopting a baby or two.  I believed it.  One day, my father made the crushing remark, that it was only a rumor, that I was adopting.  It was my truth, how could he possibly negate it?  I couldn’t believe he could even utter such unspeakable words.  In the end, he told the truth.  All along it was only a rumor, and one I was spreading it.  Whoever would have thunk?

I was single and mostly going at this whole thing alone.  Sometimes I think that’s easier, because if you need a break from it all, you just take one, and no one in particular gets mad at you.  Then you pick it back up again, when you are ready.

give it everything you've gotBut the dream is for a baby, a bouncing baby boy or girl, with long eye lashes, and beautiful eyes.

Perhaps better said, the dream is for your life with a baby in it!

It’s our destiny. It’s what we are meant to do.  We are born and grow up, with family around us.  Then we partner up, if we are lucky, make babies, and live with more family.  Then we die, with family surrounding us.

Success is just around the cornerWhile you are in the dreaming phase, you look longingly at others, who are well into their pregnancy, or others with little ones at the park, the beach, or the family gathering.  If you work in a setting with a lot of other young woman, you just may grow to feel sad, at yet another baby shower.  You may even have to avoid them, depending on how long your fertile journey becomes.  Everywhere you go, you have envy in your heart.

You want someone to answer the all pressing questions of when, oh when will it be your turn.  Surely you are deserving!  You’ve been good, and you don’t know why this so natural of events is so completely alluding you.  You are dying inside to have someone assure you, that at the end of the road, there is a baby with your name on it.  If only you knew for sure.

Alas, such assurances are nowhere to be found.  Some go through their fertile journey, with an innate sense that children shall be theirs.  For others, that sense is just not present!  They will have to wait, until the birth and the baby is handed to them, by the nurse, for that first hug, when fingers and toes are counted, to be sure all parts are present, to know that indeed they too were always meant to be a mom or dad.  It just always feels to them as it could go either way!  They could end up with a house full of boisterous children, or they could end up childless.  Only time will tell for sure!

You wonder, just what would that be like to have one of your own?  You would be in love again, but this time, your love would be so deserving!  The object of your affection would be this precious little one, that you would want to protect like no other.  You would stand up, and do whatever you had to ensure this one had a good life!  You would take responsibility proudly.  You would do everything, even if there were no thank-yous! It is just the way of life.  First, it is your parents turn, then it is your turn, and if you are lucky, you will see the miracle of life, once again in your grandchildren.

keep at itYou just know, you would savor every moment, and not rush things, ahead of their time.  You would enjoy getting your baby ready, for their day.  Their joys would be your joy, whether it be from playing with blocks, or trucks, or their favorite dolly, or something even more engaging like ever elusive bubbles, or the sprinkler, or water in a baby pool, in the privacy of your own backyard, or at the club, with lots of friends and family around.  You would enjoy moments, in which your baby was breastfeeding, or experiencing a new food, for the first time.  Clean up would be a joy!  Especially when it comes to bath time, with your little one!  Bath time is sometimes the best time of the day!  All those bubbles, and soothing luke warm water!  Ah, just the thought of it all!  Wouldn’t it be grand?

Go Baby! Be Rewarded Richly!You would also share story time with your beloved little one.  First, they would be board books mostly comprised of pictures, and later the words would emerge on each page.  First, there would be just a few and baby would be trying to learn vocabulary, and later they would be following the story, and trying to match sounds to letters.  What joy!  Next thing, you know they will be reading primers, and then the great explosion occurs, and they are reading short chapter books, and finally novels!  At that moment, you know your child has the world of books, as a friend to keep him safe, and happy til the end.  What a joy it would be.

For every hesitation you have there are boundless reasons to move forward.My journey was long, 13 to 15 years depending on how you count it, but I did not suffer.  I simply worked hard.  One of the hardest things in my travels toward building my family is that my journey left me wildly out of sync, with my peers.  My kids were being born, and my friend’s kids were out of college.

Fortunately, I have a knack for relating to people of a variety of ages, and being an older mother has not been too hard on me, either.  It just really depends on your perspective!  The benefit of it all was I had plenty of “me time,” before my children were born.  I got to do everything my heart desired!  Now, I have no regrets, when I have to stay home to be with my children.  It simply isn’t an issue.  I just have no great longing to be out socializing all the time.  My place is with my children, and I enjoy it.

Where you do the heavy lifting and we cheer you onAlthough I want you to get your wish and have your baby, I certainly don’t want you to duplicate my process.   My journey was just so darn long.  I squandered time, I could have been spending with my children, and my grandchildren!  I don’t want your journey to take so long. I want you to have plenty of family time to fill your weeks, and months, and years!  I want you heart to be filled with beautiful memories of you and your most treasured family!  So I am hoping you will learn from my journey, but streamline yours!  I want you to have your wish and get that dream baby soon, whether this is your first baby, your middle child, or your last!

Where Wannabe Parents GoDo whatever you need to, to be healthy for your fertile journey!  Lose weight, if you are heavy. Eat a healthy diet.  Choose foods carefully at the market.  Exercise, if you don’t.  Try to get enough sleep!  It’s healthy for you.  Reduce toxins in your environment, including BPAs and pesticides to name a few.  Changing some of these habits now, will not only be healthy for you and your partner, but will set the stage for raising your family.  You’ll really be a leg up, if you start to make these changes, before your bundle of joy arrives.

Only you or your God can decide what is the right number of babies for you.  Some of us have small families, and some have large.  However many children you have, or want, and no matter what method you use to bring them into your family, may your children bring you all the joy in the world!  Sending very positive vibes your way!  We are so glad that you have joined our community at Coaching Rocks!  Let your family be part of our family of choice!  We look forward to many years of serving you, and providing you, with valuable information, regarding how to grow your family!

 

Never Give Up the Dream and Don’t Forget to Leap Into Action!

Leap Into Action

 

Lisa

 

Lisa J Lafave, PhD, MBA, ACC, BCC

CEO & Founder of Coaching Rocks

The Fertility Coach at Coaching Rocks

A Single Mom by Choice Raising Surrogacy Twin Boys

Written in my Little Brick in University Hts Ohio

Filed Under: Infertility Quotes Tagged With: Coaching Rocks, Dream Baby, infertility quotes, inspirational infertility quotes, Lisa J Lafave, Lisa Lafave, quotes about infertility, quotes on infertility, The Fertility Coach at Coaching Rocks

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