If You Fail, Do You Throw In The Towel?

I’ve really been through the ringer this last year. I had major back surgery, including three separate procedures at L4 L5 in May 2015, and then total knee replacement in January of 2016.

In December 2015, I had 3 kidney stones in 2 weeks, with 3 more ready to pop. I discovered the diet I was on was causing the kidney stones and clearly not going to work for me, medically speaking. Surely, I could lose weight quickly on it, but it is not even remotely sustainable.

I lost 30 pounds in a few months and was thrilled. Then I had the obstacle of surgery, a hospital stay and a period of time when I couldn’t shop for myself or cook for myself. That was a challenge that I thought I could manage.

Long story short, I was very self indulgent and gained back 20 pounds. I feel heavier and sloppier now, than I did when I started, even though I weigh 10 pounds less! Funny how that works! I did that thing no one wants to do. Therefore, I will be retracing my steps once again, as I prepare to slide down the scale again, yet plan for a different outcome, when I get to where I am going!

This losing and regaining is referred to in the popular culture as yo-yo dieting. It is clearly not something I am proud of. Back in the day, when I lost weight, I kept it off for years. So what the heck is going on? I promise to come clean with the truth, when I figure it out.

What I did learn recently is that successful people are more able to handle or cope with the stress of failure. They seem to be more resilient and doggedly pursue their goal. They won’t accept failure as an end game. Once they get a bee in their bonnet, nothing can deter their determination. What would be failure with a capital F for some, is simply a setback, an obstacle or a road block for those successful types, who tolerate failure well.

I, for one, have decided to be one of those types who won’t take no for an answer. This recently gained weight, will not be my end game. I am going to get back on the horse and ride!

Indeed, I will need to chose an alternate path to success, but that is part of the fun of it! Remember, necessity is the mother of invention. As the prior eating regimen did not suffice, I will choose an alternate route. Once I have another clearly defined roadmap, I will share that with you in another post.

With this new knowledge under my cap, regarding successful people and their ease with failure, I am ready to leap toward the task before me, and save myself from any further damage. Let’s see how I do. Today, was the day I became completely aware of what had happened. That occurred simply by summoning up the courage to jump on the scale. That was the moment of reckoning.

I am three months out after my knee replacement and ready to walk through the neighborhood or the woods with the dogs, as a delightful form of exercise. I am no longer in the throws of recovery. I am largely beyond that now! Yippee! Time to let it rip and get back on track. No excuses.

So where have you been messing up? What responsibilities toward your body and yourself have you been shirking? Is it time to address those issues, or do you need to get further on down the pike with some other projects, before you can get back to brass tacks, and down to the business of taking care of you and your body?

Can you really afford to put it off? What might creep up that you would regret, if you continue to look in the other direction? Are you really willing to take that risk? Are you a gambling guy or gal? Do you really want to gamble here? Are you sure? Hold it right there. Take a minute right now. Take a few deep breaths and ask yourself again, are you willing to put it off, and continue to gamble with your health? A few of you may have just realized how valuable your health really is. You may be in the process at this very moment of formulating new plans, regarding how you can get back on track.

If you plan to put it off for awhile, what’s the time frame for getting back on track? What makes sense? Can you make a promise to yourself and keep it? Are you high enough up on your list of priorities to tackle your issue in the time frame you set forth today?

Okay, get out paper and pen or your phone or tablet and put in writing what you’ve been avoiding and when you will pick up the pieces in earnest. Make sure to date your writing. Put this somewhere where you will run into it again. Mark your calendar clearly when the kickoff of this new project will be. Be tactical. Develop a strategy or two to tip the scales toward success. Write those strategies down. Will you enlist a friend to join you in your quest or do you do better when you go it alone? If you are tackling it alone, can you monitor your progress, in writing, in order to keep your eyes on the prize?

What techniques have you used in the past when you’ve worked on similar projects that have put you in good stead? Are they applicable here? Any new and brainy ideas that you want to try this time around that you’ve never used before? What are they? Can you put those methods down here, so as not to lose sight of them?

Though your journey may be long, know that I am out here urging you along through the cosmos. Reach out through contact Lisa, if that feels too far away. Then we can talk through all the nitty gritty, to get you on your feet and moving. I look forward to hearing from those who want to reach out.

All my best,


Lisa J Lafave, PhD, MBA, ACC, BCC
CEO & Founder of Coaching Rocks, LLC
The Wellness Coach at Building Better Bodies Rocks!
A Single Mom By Choice of Surrogacy Twin Boys
Written in My Little Brick in University Hts, Ohio

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