Just ask yourself do you have the extra that it takes to get started here? Do you have enough once you are through the surrogacy journey to raise you son or daughter or perhaps both. You know I met someone once who did surrogacy and put in two embryos, as I did, but in his case one split! The result, tripletts of course. I was terrified of having trips! But you have to be prepared.
Babies are expensive business! Everyone knows that. Surrogacy is an even more expensive proposition, because in this operation, everyone gets paid and you, my friend, are the bank! No two ways around it! Everyone gets paid. In fact there were times in my own case were I had to pay three lawyers for one transaction! I had a lawyer who ran through my process with me so I knew someone impartial had my back, then there was my IVF lawyer and then, of course, I had to pay my egg donor’s IVF lawyer from a completely different outfit! Ditto for the surrogate. To complicate matters more, you pay the egg donor or surrogate their fee and you also pay the agency a finder’s fee of sorts. Just remember my credo that everyone gets paid in surrogacy and you, my friend, are the bank!
Then don’t even get me started with what happened with the NICU expenses. But once they are born, they are your babies, which makes you responsible.
So enough said, you need plenty of cash to create your family this way. And then you need plenty more just to keep them occupied. One of my friends said it best once, she said, “Lisa it wouldn’t be enough if they brought truck loads of cash in daily!” So just bare in mind that kids are expensive to raise no matter where you have them!
Lisa J Lafave, PhD, MBA, ACC
The Surrogacy Coach from Surrogacy Rocks
CEO & Founder of Coaching Rocks
A Single Mom By Choice Raising Surrogacy Twin Boys
Written in My Little Brick in University Heights, Ohio