Even Seals Take Care of Each Other

Jarvie: If some seals are playing a game or having a race and one seal gets hit by some ice falling into the water, the thing for the rest of the seals to do, is to stop the game or the race and see if the one seal is okay. (Pause, then Sternly) That’s the thing to do!

Mommy: Very good. I agree. That is the thing to do!

Lisa J Lafave, PhD, MBA, ACC, BCC
CEO & Founder of Coaching Rocks, LLC
A Single Mom By Choice of Surrogacy Twin Boys
Written in My Little Brick in University Hts, Ohio

Jarvie is 6 years old.

Comments and Kisses Before Bed

Last comments before sleep

Jarvie: Mommy I love you more than anyone has ever loved anyone. I love you infinity infinity times more than anyone has ever imagined love!

Mommy: Oh Jarvie, I love you too, so very much!

Lisa J Lafave, PhD, MBA, ACC, BCC
CEO & Founder of Coaching Rocks, LLC
A Single Mom By Choice of Surrogacy Twin Boys
Written in My Little Brick in University Hts, Ohio

Jarvie is 6 years old

Couldn’t Have Been Prouder of My Boys On Christmas 2015

As we approached the stairs, from the second floor, in my little brick, on Christmas morning in Cleveland, Ohio, the chatter my boys were engaging in would warm the heart of any twin parent, or parent of children close in age. Jarvie and Giles were explaining some things to me that were important for me to know, before we began opening our Christmas presents, which was going to happen momentarily!

Giles told me excitedly, “Mommy, we have decided that any gift, whether it says Jarvie, or Giles on it, is something we are going to share.

Jarvie added, “Mommy, it doesn’t matter what the package says on it. We can open any package, because we are going to share everything. So if it says Giles, I can still open it, and if it says Jarvie on it, Giles can still open it.

Giles went on to say, “Christmas is about family and sharing and the time you spend together, and not about gifts, so we have decided to share everything!”

What else could I say but, “Amen! or Bravo! or I love you boys?” All I can tell you is that, as I marched down those stairs, my heart was bursting with pride!

This stance completely alleviated any fears I had about any perceived indiscretions on my part, regarding the balance or fairness of the gifts provided! Sweet relief! What a gift this was on Christmas morning! Never forget, not all gifts come with a bow!

As my boys opened their Hot Wheels remote control cars, from my friend, Charrise in Virginia, they exclaimed “Awesome,” in unison! As they opened their Growing Crystals, and Tegu wooden, magnetic blocks, they related, “We are the luckiest boys in the world,” and “We have the best presents on the block!”

It was truly a lovely experience watching them get along and rip through their gifts squealing with delight!

To their credit, I must tell you, they followed the guidelines about sharing, they set out initially to the tee, throughout the gift opening, as well as, all day long, while they played with all of their newly prized toys! Truly spectacular!

Lisa J Lafave, PhD, MBA, ACC, BCC
CEO & Founder of Coaching Rocks, LLC
A Single Mom By Choice Raising Surrogacy Twin Boys
Written in My Little Brick in University Heights, Ohio

Boys are nearly 6

Imagination is a Great Creative Tool

Tonight, I was hanging out with Jarvie and he told me that he thought imagination was one of our greatest tools!

With a very big smile on his face Jarvie explained, “If you need to construct something, you “imaginate” it first, and then just make it! So literally, imagination is your greatest tool!”

I told him, “I will try to remember that, when I need to create something in the future!”

I just love these little conversations with my young son. They warm my heart! I will really miss it, when he stops saying things like “imaginate!”

Lisa J Lafave, PhD, MBA, ACC, BCC
CEO & Founder of Coaching Rocks, LLC
A Single Mom By Choice Raising Surrogacy Twin Boys
Written in My Little Brick in University Heights, Ohio

Boys are still 5!

Jarvie Will Cherish It Forever!

Early last Fall, I visited my sons’ school, University School or “US,” as it is typically called. I met with their teachers, and other parents of boys in their class. The teachers took that opportunity to have me write a personal letter to both of my sons, who just so happen to be in the very same classroom! The teachers explained the method to their madness. Since the boys are in kindergarten, their teachers are interested in any activity, which promotes curiosity about reading. The letter was just one vehicle to that end.

Jarvie came across this note with its accompanying drawing of a rainbow At Christmas time and asked me to read it to him. I pointed to the rainbow and the words beneath it which read, “You are just as magnificent as a rainbow!” The next part read, “Dear Jarvie, I had the chance to come to your school on Founder’s day. Mr. Rein, your Head Master, spoke to us first. The teachers have been telling me all good things about you at school. You’re in kindergarten, and you are on your way! Mommy is so proud of you dear! So much love, Mama”

When I finished reading, I handed Jarvie the letter, which Jarvie held out in front of me and asked, “Mama did you make this yourself?”

To which I replied, “Yes!”

He queried further, “All by yourself?”

I nodded my head to reply affirmatively once again.

Jarvie then took the letter and pressed it against his heart and said, “Mama, I will cherish this forever!”

As if that weren’t enough, he then said, “Mama, I don’t really know what cherish means, but I will cherish it forever!”

Lisa J Lafave, PhD, MBA, ACC, BCC
CEO & Founder of Coaching Rocks, LLC
Single Mom By Choice Raising Surrogacy Twin Boys
Written in My Little Brick in University Heights, Ohio

Boys are 5, but getting ever closer to 6 these days!

My Darling Son Loves to Protect His Mother

As many of you know, I had major back surgery on the spring of 2015 and face total knee replacement in January of 2016. Trust me I have had my share of bumps and bruises along the way. My son, Jarvie, takes it on as his job to point out all the cracks and unlevel areas that we traverse in our daily walks or hikes, as we journey from here to there, as a family. Although I don’t find this entirely necessary, I play along, because fact that he even cares to do this, warms my heart. He is really good at this and rarely misses noticing an area that could pose a risk. He really is quite the care taker. Thank goodness for caring little boys! Don’t think I don’t realize how lucky I am to have a boy like this at my side!

Lisa J Lafave, PhD, MBA, ACC, BCC
CEO & Founder of Coaching Rocks, LLC
Single Mom By Choice Raising Surrogacy Twin Boys
Written in My Little Brick in University Heights, Ohio

Boys are 5, soon to be 6 years old!

My Son Has an Innate Desire to Protect Mother Nature’s Work!

Last summer my father offered to purchase me a mosquito zapper to be installed near the patio, to make our time out there more pleasant. I grew up with one in my yard as a child, so of course I agreed.

We are now approaching Christmas, in Cleveland, Ohio and it is often snowing this time of year. Yesterday, my son Jarvie, out of the blue, informed me that he doesn’t like our insect eater on the patio, because it opposes God’s plan or Mother Nature’s plan and that perhaps we should just be bit by the mosquitos!

Now it is really daunting to me that a five year old can figure out that you shouldn’t monkey with the grand plan, because you might unwittingly disrupt something important! Moreoever, it blows my mind that he has an inherent understanding that it just might be worth it to suffer with the mosquito bites, than the unforeseen consequences of altering the system. He seems to understand that by putting this gizmo in place, for our convenience, that we just might alter the natural order of things and risk more than we bargained for.

It just begs the question how can Monsanto and all its brainy executives throw all caution to the wind and pursue a path so divergent from that designed by Mother Nature? Don’t they have any common sense at all. I mean heck, my five year old knows it’s not good to mess with Mother Nature!

Do you know that Monsanto sought to develop pesticides that would attack the insect’s gut and ostensibly blow up their stomachs? I think this is the root cause of leaky gut, which something like 70% of Americans suffer with. So first it was the bugs or pests that suffered and now it’s us!

I so wish we could go back to a time when our soil, water and air were not polluted, our animals were not being given vast amounts of hormones and antibiotics, and our plants were not genetically modified. But we can’t return.

We can only mend our ways. We need to subsidize farmers to grow fruits and vegetables organically. We need laws that encourage industry to reduce toxic emissions into to our air, waterways and soil. We need federal dollars to help us innovate and create more sustainable ways of living. We need grocery stores and restaraunts that make purchasing and eating whole, natural, non-processed, organic, slow cooked foods commonplace and cost effective.

What can you do to be more sustainable, to eat more organically, to pollute less, to reduce the size of your carbon footprint? Any action, no matter how small it is in the beginning, can be important as long as it moves us in the right direction. When many of us act together, our collective intention can be realized.

Lisa J Lafave, PhD, MBA, ACC, BCC
CEO & Founder of Coaching Rocks, LLC
Single Mom by Choice Raising Surrogacy Twin Boys
Written in My Little Brick in University Heights, Ohio

Leap Into Action!

My Little Son Jarvie Just Gave Me The Best Advice Ever!

I have a very big decision to make. I have a total knee replacement surgery set for January 27, 2016, just six weeks away. After scheduling the surgery, I was given an online tutorial about the surgery. Quite frankly, it frightened me. The new knee is always subject to infection. At anytime it could require replacement or worse, it could be so bad that it has to be removed and never replaced again. The unit also wears out in roughly 15 years. So I need to decide if I am going to do this and if this is the right time.

While I was walking around the block with the dogs, I broached my dilemma with my young son Jarvie. I told him I have a big decision to make about whether or not to have my knee surgery now.

Jarvie’s reply, “Mommy you do it, if you want to and don’t do it if you don’t want to. It’s your decision, so you do what YOU want to do.”

It is such a joy to go through life with such a wise soul at my side. Sounds simple enough, but it was great advice. Notice he supported me entirely, without telling me what to do. In just a couple of sentences Jarvie made what I need to do entirely obvious. Perhaps, I should back off the surgery and give it some time. Let some of the other parts of my journey unfold. Maybe I should see what comes of the weight loss and the anti-inflammatory diet. Perhaps I will try more chiropractic therapy with manipulation.

Sometimes five year olds have the most sound advice of all!

Lisa J Lafave, PhD, MBA, ACC, BCC
CEO & Founder of Coaching Rocks, LLC
The Wellness Coach from Building Better Bodies Rocks
A Single Mom By Choice Raisin Surrogacy Twin Boys
Written in My Little Brick in University Heights, OH

Boys are nearly 6

Leap Into Action!

The Boys Received a Gift at School and Shared It

The other day Giles said to someone, “You know what I like better than candy?” And when asked, replied with a big goofy grin, “More candy!” Those two lines pretty much sum up Gilie’s feelings about candy. The kid lives for the stuff!

So the other day when their classmate, Atreya, wrapped up a gift for the two of them and presented it to them after school, they both eagerly unwrapped it, with its telltale clue of a lollipop stick peaking through! Giles remarked, “Hey Jarve, we hit the jackpot!”

With one gentle reminder that they might consider sharing their gift, they swiftly gave all but two pieces away to other boys in their kindergarten class, who were waiting for their parents to arrive. Neither one balked, or even considered sneaking a few extra in their pockets. For a mom, who always tells her kids things taste better when you share, it was a proud moment.

Lisa J Lafave, PhD, MBA, ACC, BCC
CEO & Founder of Coaching Rock, LLC
A Single Mom By Choice Raising Surrogacy Twin Boys
Written in My Little Brick in University Heights, Ohio

Leap Into Action!

Gilie in the morning

It’s 7:00 AM and Gilie’s downstairs getting ready for school, while Jarvie hasn’t even gotten out of bed!

Mom: Where is your brother?

Giles: He’s still in bed! Mom, you know, Jarvie is obsessed with his bed!

Mom: Really?

Giles: Yah Mom, he really is obsessed with his bed!

Lisa J Lafave, PhD, MBA, ACC
CEO & Founder of Coaching Rocks, LLC
Single Mom By Choice Raising Surrogacy Twin Boys
Written in My Little Brick in University Heights, OH

Boys are 5 1/2