The First Step to Hang Gliding

Giles: Hey Mommy, do you know what the first step to hang gliding is?

Mommy: No, not really dear. What is the first step to hang gliding?

Giles: The first step to hang gliding is holding onto the monkey bars real

Lisa J Lafave, PhD, MBA, ACC
A Single Mom By Choice Raising Surrogacy Twin Boys
CEO & Founder of Coaching Rocks, LLC
Written in My Little Brick in University Heights, Ohio

Boys are 5 1/2

The Non-Stress Stress Test was Normal

Yep, you heard that right! The non-stress stress test was normal! No chest pain or dyspnea were noted during the stress portion of the nuclear stress test. No arrhythmias were produced by the stress portion of the test. The blood pressure response to the pharmacological stress was normal. Normal! normal, normal! Yee-haw doggie!

Now I can stay on Dr Mark Hyman’s Detox Diet, which is fairly Paleo in nature, and not stress over the meat I might consume weekly. If I had substantial changes, I might be looking at Dr. Esselstyn’s No Oil, Plant Based Diet, which if done correctly, promises to prevent and reverse heart disease. Dr. Esselstyn’s approach goes quite a bit beyond simply being vegan.

I’ve been on Dr. Esselstyn’s diet and didn’t get very far, despite following it for 10 months. When I met Dr. Hyman, his comment about my having been vegan was “Hmmm, I’ve known a lot of fat vegans.” My guess is the vegans he knew were not Dr. Esselstyn’s protégés, or were and simply did not follow the instructions very well!

Dr Mark Hyman’s diet, despite its restrictions, is a better fit for my tastes and lifestyle, plus it produces much faster results, in the weight loss department. So for now, armed with my NORMAL nuclear stress test results, I have the green light to continue trekking on the Mark Hyman Detox Diet! Yippee! No interference in my plan!

Have you had any wins lately that are allowing you to pursue your chosen path? Why not jot them down and make a record of them.

Lisa J Lafave, PhD, MBA, ACC
The Wellness Coach from Building Better Bodies Rocks
CEO & Founder of Coaching Rocks, LLC
A Single Mom By Choice Raising Surrogacy Twin Boys
One Woman’s Experience Recovering From Medical Challenges
Written in My Little Brick in University Heights, Ohio

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I Bought A Piano Only to See It Sit In My Dining Room.

My boys, Jarvie and Giles, who are now 5 1/2, have been taking Dalcroze Eurhythmics, at The Cleveland Institue of Music, for two years now. This is the beginning of their third year. In Eurhythmics, they learn to run, skip, hop, tip toe, or gallop, according to what type of notes the instructor plays, on the piano. They also learn about 16 different types of notes. Eurhythmics is a great foundation to pursuing any instrument. At CIM, all the young adult, students are required to take Eurhythmics.

All along, I have been interested in having Jarvie & Giles have an appreciation for music, and then learn how to play the guitar. Along the way, friends shared with me that they thought beginning piano was important for any musical education, including guitar.

I thought I would start guitar lessons at five years old, however, my plans were foiled. Upon further exploration, I discovered that the guitar teachers felt that learning guitar, before the age of seven was too early, because of the size of the average 4, 5, and 6 year old’s hand.

So I thought to myself, maybe Jarvie and Giles could take piano in the interim. I attended a meeting at the Cleveland Institute of Music regarding preparatory piano lessons. I was told you need to have an acoustic piano, in your home, in order to have your child in their preparatory classes. So I went out and purchased a like new, but used, Baldwin. She is a beauty! Sounds pretty good too!

As I began to make arrangements for piano lessons, with teachers from the Cleveland Institute of Music, the common theme was that it would be better to wait, until the boys were seven to start piano. Apparently, the teachers want children to know that you read prose and music, from left to right, and until that is drilled into the brains of little boys and little girls, trying to read music is rather difficult!

Thank goodness that Baldwin is as pretty to look at, as she is to listen to! I have acquired a rather large piece of furniture in my dining room that will sit largely unused, until my boys learn to read!

So much for taking piano, before guitar!

Lisa J Lafave, PhD, MBA, ACC
A Single Mom By Choice Raising Surrogacy Twin Boys
CEO & Founder of Coaching Rocks, LLC
Written in Mt Little Brick in University Heights, Ohio

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A Proud Moment

When I pick the boys up from University School, at 2:45 PM in the afternoon, it is common practice for many of the boys and their moms to sit in the grass talking and coloring or having a snack, and then go climb a tree, or play ball. Quite a few of us stay late regularly.

The other day, one of my friends was hanging out with the group. She was approached by two women, and the next thing I knew she was in tears. I really didn’t know what had happened. Two other moms were soothing her, so I thought it best to leave it be, and find out about it later.

My son, Giles, was walking by, and noticed she was crying. Instead of acting like he didn’t notice, or coming to me to ask what happened, he looked her way, caught her eye and said, “Want to play ball? Want a snack?” Everyone burst into hysterics, including the woman who had been crying. He really broke the ice, and changed the tone of what was going on. Judging from the expression on his face, I would say, he was delighted, with his intervention.

My child had chosen not to ignore someone in pain, but chose instead to act, and offer her a bit of kindness, in her moment of despair. I was really proud of him. He had used both kindness and bravery in one small act.

Lisa J Lafave, PhD, MBA, ACC
A Single Mom By Choice Raising Surrogacy Twin Boys
CEO & Founder of Coaching Rocks, LLC
Written in My Little Brick in University Heights, Ohio

It’s the Sugar that’s the Problem!

Sugar is seven times more addicting than cocaine. Sugar produces the same dopamine response as drug addiction. Simply said it produces blood sugar highs and lows. The highs cause excessive energy and excitability, and the lows cause malaise and depressed mood. Before the lows become too low, we find ourselves reaching for our next fix to bring on yet another high, so we can continue to function.

We, as a nation, are constantly stimulating ourselves, throughout the day, with sugar. We are sugar addicts. We drink Coca Cola which has 8 teaspoons of sugar per 12 ounce can. We drink coffee with several teaspoons of sugar added. A Starbucks Grande Mocha Frappachino (16 ounces) has 12 teaspoons of sugar in it. A simple 10 ounce serving of orange juice has 9 teaspoons of sugar. We eat candy and cakes and cookies, all loaded with sugar. A 2 ounce Snickers bar has 8 teaspoons of sugar added. A Cinnabon cinnamon roll has 14 teaspoons of sugar in it. A 1.69 ounce bag of M&Ms has 8 teaspoons of sugar added. A six pack of Oreos has 8 teaspoons of sugar added.

True to addiction, once we have had even a little bit of sugar, we want more. Sudden removal of sugar, from our systems, causes the onset of typical withdrawal symptoms, such as headache, fatigue, irritability, desire for more, and so on.

These same withdrawal symptoms are seen when caffeine, alcohol, prescription drugs and many street drugs are suddenly ceased. Sugar, whose consumption is rarely highly regulated,(except in the case of individuals, who are diabetic and doing something about it, or those who are dieting and knowledgeable about the effect of various food’s glycemic index on the body, or simply those who are highly health conscious), is used numerous times a day by most Americans. Most of the other addictive substances are not as easily attained, nor used as regularly, except perhaps caffeine and cigarettes.

According to Joshua Rosenthal, founder of the Institute for Integrative Nutrition, the typical American consumes 130 pounds of sugar and sugar alternatives in a year’s time. Now that is a heck of a lot of sugar. That doesn’t even begin to address the sugar that is naturally found in many of the whole foods we consume, nor the sugar added to many processed and refined foods found in our grocery stores.

According to the Harvard Health Publication, the glycemic index of various foods, such as watermelon (72) bananas (62), apples (39), raisins (64) orange juice, unsweetened (50), as well as, carrots (35), mashed potato (87), sweet potatoe (70) and a slice of wheat bread (71) demonstrates that we are consuming too much sugar within the foods that we eat. The Harvard Health Publication explains that the glycemic index shows the degree to which a certain food raises blood sugar and insulin in the blood. The higher the index which goes from 1 to 100, the more it raises your blood sugar.

John Douillard suggests we need to eat far more non-sugary vegetables to improve our diet! He suggests that perhaps 3/4 rds of our plate should be comprised of non-sugary vegetables.

Perhaps even more alarming is the fact that excessive sugar consumption increases your risk of developing cancer. According to Anderson Cancer Center at the University of Texas, sugar consumption, without increased exercise, causes weight gain, which increases your risk for cancer. Anderson further suggests that women should not eat more than 6 teaspoons of sugar, and men not more than 9 teaspoons of sugar, per day. Imagine how many more teaspoons you consume passively, each day, without even adding sugar, honey, maple syrup or Agave to your food.

So are any of these ideas new to you? Are you surprised how much sugar is in the everyday products we consume? Do you think you are a sugar addict like much of the rest of America? What concerns do you have now about your sugar intake? Is there anything you are prepared to do about it?

Now take out paper and pencil, your tablet or mobile phone and let’s get real about your sugar intake. How much sugar do you think you consume daily? Are you willing to do a little detective work about it? Could you keep a food journal for a week and then look up the amount of teaspoons in each food you ate. Add them up and divide by seven to get an estimate of your daily average.

What do you think about your daily average? Is there anything you want to do about this? What are the consequences for you, should you choose to ignore this information? What are the benefits, should you choose to reduce your sugar intake? Is there anyone else in the household, who could benefit from reducing their sugar intake. Do you think their sugar intake would reduce, if you decided to stop bringing sugary products into the home, and stopped eating things with excessive sugar in them? Is this something you are willing to pursue? How likely on a scale of 1 – 10, with 10 being the greatest likelihood, are you to follow through and make this issue a priority in your life?

Best of luck to you and your loved ones, should you decide to make a concerted effort to reduce your sugar intake.

Lisa J Lafave, PhD, MBA, ACC
The Wellness Coach at Building Better Bodies Rocks
CEO & Founder of Coaching Rocks, LLC
A Single Mom By Choice Raising Surrogacy Twin Boys
Written in My Little Brick in University Heights, OH

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North Coast Region Network for a Healthy California Champions for Change provided the information about the number of teaspoons of sugar referenced in various products.

Traditional Surrogacy Vs Gestational Surrogacy

Traditional surrogacy came first, then the modified version called gestational surrogacy was developed. Traditional surrogacy occurs when the surrogate not only carriers the baby, but also provides her egg or her DNA to create the baby. This can be accomplished by inseminating the surrogate with the chosen sperm and then the surrogate carrying the baby to term and delivering the baby, after which she surrenders the baby to the intended parent.

In traditional surrogacy, there is no need to take drugs to sync cycles, and no need to grow the embryo outside the uterus in a Petri dish. It is far more akin to a regular pregnancy than gestational surrogacy. In both traditional surrogacy and a typical pregnancy millions of sperm race toward the egg which is making its way down the Fallopian tube or has made its way into the uterus. Once the egg is penetrated by the sperm, it becomes an embryo and begins to divide. It then attempts to implant in the uterine wall, which is filled with blood and ready to sustain the embryo. With luck the embryo will stick and become a fetus and then some nine or ten months later give rise to the birth of a baby.

Overtime, intended parents discovered that there were inherent legal risks to traditional surrogacy. Should the surrogate change her mind, the intended parent could be in quite a legal battle. Despite legal documents, courts have at times ruled in favor of the traditional surrogate. After all, she not only carried the baby but also provided her DNA to create the baby.

This is why gestational surrogacy was created. In gestational surrogacy, the intended parents choose an egg donor, a sperm donor and a surrogate. In this case, the cycles of the egg donor and surrogate are synced hormonally, such that when the eggs are released and ready for extraction from the egg donor, the surrogate’s uterine wall is lining up with blood and will be ready to receive the embryos 5 days later, after they have had a chance to mature a bit.

In gestational surrogacy, their is less risk of the surrogate successfully changing her mind and the courts opting in her favor to take the baby or babies away from the intended parents and give him, her or them to the surrogate. In gestational surrogacy, the court sees the DNA of both the egg and sperm, as belonging to the intended parents. This is why, more often then not, the court awards the baby or babies to the intended parents after a gestational surrogacy. However, there have been rare instances, in which the surrogate has changed her mind and won in court, even in the case of gestational surrogacy.

Most Lawyers today would advise you to engage in gestational surrogacy, but as you can imagine traditional surrogacy could be far less expensive. If you opt for traditional surrogacy, be aware of what you are forsaking.

Which option is right for you? Traditional surrogacy or gestational surrogacy? Make a case for why the option you chose is right for you. Commit those thoughts to writing.

Lisa J Lafave, PhD, MBA, ACC
The Surrogacy Coach at Surrogacy Rocks
CEO & Founder of Coaching Rocks, LLC
A Single Mom By Choice of Surrogacy Twin Boys
Written in My Little Brick in University Heights, Ohio

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Why Would You Let Genetics Stand In Your Way?

I once was invited to participate in a group with a bunch of women, who had trouble conceiving. What was interesting to me was that the women were far more distressed by their experience, than I was about mine and I had been struggling with the issue for far longer!

I wonder if the dynamic that set us apart was the fact that I was single! It seems to me that when you are coupled up, and both want a baby, that you must have either some sense of disappointing your partner, or feeling aggravated with your partner that together the two of you cannot make a baby. Either way, you have some complicated feelings to manage vis a vis your partner. If the problem does not reside clearly with you, you may feel your partner is blocking you from realizing your dream. Similarly, if the problem lies with you, you might feel you are failing your partner and keeping them from experiencing all the joys of parenthood. The sense I got from participating, briefly in this group, was that the very relationship was sometimes threatened, by the fact that the couple could not naturally, or with assistance produce a baby.

What has always been phenomenal to me was that what each of these women wanted more than anything was a baby and a family to fill the void in their lives, yet most of them were absolutely unwilling to try to attempt this process using genetic material, other than their own!

When I lived in New York City, I knew a couple who experienced a similar challenge. They were in love! Bogey were married! Bother had a novice home and a couple of cats and they wanted nothing more than a baby. They tried IVF seven times and failed. They never pursued adoption and it was too early for surrogacy, which might have been prohibitive given their financial resources. Quite frankly, even if they had the finances, they may have had a similar outcome, if they were still unwilling to use alternate DNA. You see, I was never privy to the exact nature of their problem.

Call me daft, but I fail to understand in what way the ladies in my group and the friends from New York City could not understand they could realize their greatest dream, if they simply created a baby that would be theirs, save the genetics. At the end of the day, any one of these folks would have either a bouncing baby boy, or a darling little girl. So what’s the difference how the child comes to be, if all you really want is a baby? The notion still makes me scratch my head.

What I do know, as a result of raising my own children, who do not come from my genetics, is they could not be more mine! People very commonly think they come from me, yet mistake me for their grandmother, owing to my advanced maternal age! The point is we look enough alike that people assume we are have the common genetic ties seen in most families.

The journey is what makes me their mother! The day to dayness of our relationship and all the things I do for them, big and small, is what makes me their mother. Having the honor to be with them through thick and thin, and the joy of watching them grow and change overtime is what makes me their mother. Sharing their laughter and their tears is what makes me their mother. Watching out for them and trying to make sure each day is filled with texture and an appropriate amount of stimulation is what makes me their mother.

My DNA is not the fiber of their being, but my heart is! They are my labor of love. They are my life’s work. Everything I am and all that I will become has everything to do with them. We are family and there is a purpose for all of our actions. Everyday, we are becoming more of who we are meant to be. To be sure, we three were meant to be together! We are bound by the ties of family. My life is richer and better now that they are in it. Although my children arrived when I was nearly fifty, I cannot imagine what it would have been like without them.

So what is holding you back? Are you allowing genetics to get in the way of fulfilling your dreams? What is truly at the root of that for you? What are you afraid of? What’s the bottom line on this one for you? Aren’t we all more alike than different, by the simple virtue of our humanness?

By now, you know the drill. Get out paper and pencil, or grab your mobile phone or iPad and please put your thoughts down in a more formal fashion. What keeps you from leaping forward and creating that baby? Surely, in the case of surrogacy, you can see you have more control over some of the aspects of the genetics your baby is likely to inherit, than is the case in adoption or foster care. What stops you in your tracks? Is it insurmountable? Can you work your way around it? Are you ready to dive in and create that family you have so desperately longed for?

Lisa J Lafave, PhD, MBA, ACC
The Surrogacy Coach at Surrogacy Rocks
CEO & Founder of Coaching Rocks, LLC
A Single Mom By Choice Raising Surrogacy Twin Boys
Written in My Little Brick In a University Heights, Ohio

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Back Surgery or Should I Say Decompression, Fusion and Fixation?

Have I had a chance to tell you about the back surgery that I had on May 18, 2015, at the Cleveland Clinic, by Iain Kalfas, MD, who happens to be the head of the Spine Institute at the Cleveland Clinic?

I was suffering from severe spinal stenosis, which is hereditary. My father suffers from it as well. I suspect the spinal stenosis has actually been causing me pain, since I was a small child. I always begged everyone to rub my lower back, even as a small child. As a teenager, I took long soaks in the tub, hoping the heat of the water would soothe my lower back. Later came multiple rounds of physical therapy, chiropractic treatments and shots of steroids put right in my back at the Cleveland Clinic’s Pain Management Center.

I suffered from two herniated disks, L4 L5, while carrying my twins around, in and out of the car, and such. It became especially prominent when they were two and three years old, with accompanying sciatica. By the time they were four, I was a basket case.

Somewhere in the mix, I developed spondolythisis or slippage of the vertebrae. Taken to its extreme, spondolythisis can lead to complete loss of bowel and bladder control, although I understand this is rare, thank goodness.

So the surgery I had took 7 1/2 hours to complete and was designed to fix all three problems. They did decompression for the spinal stenosis, fusion for the herniated disks and fixation for the spondolythisis. The fixation involved putting in two titanium rods and a few screws to keep the rods in place. That should prevent further slippage of the vertebrae overtime, which makes me quite happy.

The pain that I had from these three conditions is not yet gone. I am hoping that I am simply a slower healer. The doctor told me that I would have 12-16 weeks of horrific pain after the surgery. He further told me that the full recovery would take a year. That said, many walk away from the surgery without any pain to speak of. This has not been my experience. I am more than 16 weeks out and still waiting for that to be my reality.

Regarding results for a surgery like this, 85% experience relief, 14% are neither better nor worse, and that unlucky 1% that is left over are actually worse. I clearly want to be in the majority group! Before it is over, I expect to be!

Interestingly, after my surgery, my internist, whom I love and adore, Dr Elena Borukh said to me, “You know, you are so brave!”

My reply, “Really? What makes you say that? Brave in what way?”

Dr Boruhk went onto explain, “So many of my other patients have a great need to undergo one surgery or another and they can’t, because they are too afraid. You are different. You are brave. You already had the surgery you needed. I really applaud you.”

So I ask you in turn, what surgery have you been avoiding and why? Do you think you don’t have the time for the surgery and recovery? Are you afraid to have the surgery? How could you summon the necessary courage to actually do it? How does not having the surgery limit you? What are all of the costs? What could you stand to gain by having the surgery? Are you sure you can afford to continue to put the surgery off? What is the worst thing that could happen by postponing? Are you really willing to pay that price? Are you sure there aren’t more possible consequences? Are you willing to do some research to be sure?

Now, get out a piece of paper or your cell phone or tablet and write out a list of pros and cons regarding the surgery you have been putting off. Has your position changed any as the result of taking the time to put your ideas down on paper so you can look at them frankly and honestly!

Best of luck to you and your loved ones, should you choose to have you surgery! Every surgery has risks, but you can research the risks, weigh them and make the best and most informed choice possible about whether or not to have the surgery that has been recommended to you. Should you choose to move forward, I salute your bravery!

Lisa J Lafave, PhD, MBA, ACC
The Wellness Coach from Building Better Bodies Rocks
CEO & Founder of Coaching Rocks, LLC
ASingle Mom By Choice Raising Surrogacy Twin Boys
One Woman’s Experience Recovering from Near Medical Disaster
Written in My Little Brick in University Heights, Ohio

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Non-Stress Stress Test

Did you know that if you are unable to perform the stress part of a cardiac stress test, there is a non-stress stress test? Well there is! Instead of walking and then running on a treadmill, they give you medicine to invoke a state similar to that of exercise or stress and attach a nuclear tracer to it, so they can take images of your heart pre and post the stress produced by the medicine. I just learned this a month or so ago.

Today, I am finally completing my non-stress stress test at the Cleveland Clinic’s Cardiology and Nuclear Medicine departments. This stress test is also sometimes called a pharmacological stress test.

I tried to do the test last week, but it was a no go. While in the Nuclear Medicine Department, I was given radioactive Regadenoson, which is a vasodilator. This medicine dilates your blood vessels in a manner which occurs during exercise. Subsequently, images of my chest were taken by the gamma camera. I then went to Cardiologyy just to find out that my heart rate was 142, which was too high to perform the full test and cause further increases in my heart rate. Apparently, 140 is the heart rate they aim for on the traditional stress test with exercise, and without the vasodilator.

I had been asked to refrain from using caffeine, Acetominophen and Metoprolol, for 24 hours. I take the Metoprolol to minimize tachycardia, or high heart rate. I had stopped these drugs for 36 hours and that was just too long. Since the initial gamma images of the flow of blood through the heart are good for one week, I was able to reschedule within one week, and continue as usual. So here I am today, for the next two parts of the test.

I had the stress portion of the exam already today. Basically, they attach leads to monitor your heart, put the IV into your arm, put on a blood pressure cuff, inject the medicine, Regadenoson, for the test. They then monitor both your heart rate and blood pressure for 4 minutes, while you pump a soft ball and march your feet up and down, alternating left and right, to get the blood flowing through your veins.

Thank goodness the chemical stress test only lasts 4 minutes, because it made me feel really weird. First, I felt breathlessness, then dizziness, then I experienced distress in my stomach and lower abdomen.

Next up, will be the post gamma camera images of the blood coursing through my heart detected by the nuclear tracer, given to me earlier.

Tomorrow, I have a CT scan of my heart to rule out pulmonary embolism, as the cause of breathlessness, often referred to as dyspnea in the medical community.

So remember, if you are having trouble with your heart and having difficulty getting around, you can still have a stress test. It’s called a pharmological stress test or a chemical stress test or a non-stress stress test. Don’t be shy to call your doctor today, if you are experiencing breathlessness or chest pain.

If you feel really badly, do not hesitate to call an ambulance or go immediately to your local emergency room. It has been my experience, and I have more experience than I would care to share in these matters, that when you call an ambulance to go to the emergency room, you essentially jump the line in the waiting room, and receive more immediate attention. So if you think your need is urgent, for goodness sakes call 911, and have an ambulance, more safely, take you to the hospital.

I know I am out of shape owing to increasing back, knee, and hip pain, over the course of the last five years, with accompanying decrease in exercise. Prior to my boys being born, who are now 5, I used to walk 45 – 90 minutes, everyday for years, with my dogs, in the woods. During the last year, I have become woefully out of shape and have been hardly able to walk to the corner! No wonder I have been experiencing breathlessness.

This is really the story of on middle age woman’s journey from the brink of medical disaster, back to health. I am over weight, and at risk for diabetes. I have been fighting diabetes for some time, but now I am fighting off heart disease. I have a mandate from my rheumatologist to have total knee replacement in the spring.

After back surgery 4 months ago, I am now able the walk around the block! I can also swim for about 20 minutes.

I have a history of severe acid reflux and have experienced esphogeal spasm, which mimics heart attack. That could have been the cause of the chest pain I experienced last month.

After getting the results of the non-stress stress test and the CT of the chest, I will know if I am suffering from heart disease and what I have to do about it.

I hope it’s not heart disease for two reasons. First, I hope I haven’t gotten myself into that much of a health problem. I really don’t want to add heart disease to my list of health concerns. Secondly, I am on a roll with Dr Mark Hyman’s Detox Diet and don’t want to upset the apple cart. If I just have another 11 months to pursue this diet, unobstructed and as is, I think I can make some dramatic changes in my overall health.

I am wondering if this anti-inflammatory diet might be able to buy me some time with the total knee replacement. Technology improves with each passing year and I’d like to take advantage of that, as much as I can. Plus, it’s just a lot of stress on my boys to have their Mama in the hospital and then in rehab. After having gone through the back surgery this year, I surely would like to spare them the drama of having to go through it all again so soon. These things are especially challenging when you are a single parent!

What medical issues are you facing square in the eye? What can you do about them. Have you discussed these issues with your internist? Have you seen a specialist? Don’t bury your head in the sand and hope it will go away. There are things you can do about it to reduce the severity of your problems. Why not start by noodling it around with a trusted friend or family member. Ideas abound when your share your problems with others!

Why not take out a piece of paper or grab your cell phone or tablet and write a list of the three most urgent medical issues you have been sitting on. Below that list, write three names of people you would be willing to discuss it with. Then give yourself a reasonable time period to have that discussion. Actually write that date down. Next, stick with the plan! Then, write a similar list, after your discussion with each your trusted others, and put down another date. Follow through with this plan, as well!

Lisa J Lafave, PhD, MBA, ACC
The Wellness Coach at Building Better Bodies Rocks
CEO & Founder of Coaching Rocks
A Single Mom By Choice Raising Surrogacy Twin Boys
One Woman’s Experience Recovering After Near Medical Disaster
Written in the Nuclear Medicine Department @ Cleveland Clinic

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Physical Exercise Has Begun!

If you haven’t noticed, I am basically taking you with me on my personal metamorphosis journey. So I have shared that I had back surgery 4 months ago and total knee replacement has been recommended. I am overweight and uncomfortable due to various aches and pains. I have difficulty ambulating and sometimes pay an incredible price for doing so.

Since the surgery, I have been trying to walk a bit each day. I am currently able to walk around the block, which takes 15 to 20 minutes to accomplish. Some days it is quite punishing, other days it’s more enjoyable.

Last week, I started physical therapy which requires me to perform various exercises a few times a day aimed at increasing my core strength to support my back, as well as, improving the strength of my thighs to benefit my recovery after my knee surgery.

Today, I went swimming specifically to exercise and stretch in the water. I did stretched for 1 hour and then swam laps for 20 minutes to get a tad of cardiovascular exercise. Trust me, I wasn’t breaking any records.

It is so good to be exercising, while I am losing weight. It is just the beginning of my journey with exercise. The whole point of these surgeries, this diet and this exercise is, not only to help me to generally feel better in my skin, but also to enable me to walk again and go places with my boys. Always establish your why. Why are you going to such lengths? I am doing all of this in order to be a more fully present parent.

I have felt my world shrinking and folding in on me as I began to lose mobility. Now I am fighting to gain it back! I am building on each step that has gone before to create a better body, one that is able to take on more and engage in meaningful physical activity, so I can have a fulfilled life again.

I am not interested in rotting for the next thirty years and watching the world move around me. I want to be a fully functioning member of what is going on. I want to take the deck I’ve been dealt and maximize my potential. I want to be in service of my body. From this day forward, I want to assist my body in making any and all changes that it needs. Think of JFK and ask not what your body can do for you, but what you can do for your body!

Are there any declarations or proclamations you want to make about your body and what you plan to do for it? Take out a piece of paper or grab your smart phone or tablet and write down, right now, what you are willing to do, in an ongoing way, to help your body become stronger and more fit.

Never forget, Building Better Bodies Rocks!

Lisa J Lafave, PhD, MBA, ACC
The Wellness Coach at Building Better Bodies Rocks
CEO & Founder of Coaching Rocks, LLC
A Single Mom By Choice Raising Surrogacy Twin Boys
Written in My Little Brick in University Heights, Ohio

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