Your Destiny is your Dream Baby
In order to become pregnant, you will want to know, when you ovulate, and when the fertile phase of your cycle begins. Fortunately, much research has already been conducted to ferret this out for you. With some know how, and a bit of effort on your part, you can really zero in on, when to have sex, in order to create your dream baby. You may already know that women often take their temperature, before they get up in the morning, to help them get pregnant. But what is this all about, and what are those women looking for anyway? What other signs might help you know when you ovulate?
Rotzer, from Austria was the innovator of the Symptothermal Method (STM). He engaged in extensive research of thousands women’s cycles, with the help of his first his wife and latter his daughter, beginning as early as 1951. He referred to his method as natural conception regulation (NCR), which was permitted by the church. He noted that a woman’s waking basal body temperature (BBT) rises slightly during her fertile days. As a result, women can differentiate between their fertile, and infertile days of the month by tracking BBT daily. Rotzer further noted that vaginal secretions change, during the fertile phase. Finally, Rotzer’s wife related she experienced a slight pain in her lower abdomen, when her temperature rose. This pain was noted as a sign of ovulation.
More recently Hermann Frank in 2007, found that 0.6 % of women became pregnant, using the Symptothermal Based Method (STM) or the Fertility Awareness Method (FAM). Thus SMT was 99.4% effective as a form of contraception.
The Fertility Authority at www.fertilityauthority.com suggests that when you ovulate, you will see a slight rise (approximately 0.4 degrees Fahrenhite) in body temperature, upon waking, before getting up, or using the bathroom. They suggest using a basal body thermometer, which is more precise, and measures to the tenth of a degree. These can easily be purchased online.
The Red Tent Sisters, Amy and Kim Sedgewick, from Canada, explain that you can gain powerful information about your fertile, and infertile days, from tracking three pieces of information daily, namely, 1) basal body temperature (BBT), 2) position of the cervix, essentially, high or low, and 3) quality, and quantity of cervical mucus.
Spinbarkite mucus, or cervical mucus hangs down from the cervix, and acts as a wick for the sperm to crawl along, to get into the uterus. It’s sole job is to help a woman get pregnant. It is present, during a woman’s fertile phase. Spinbarkite mucus is clear, stretchy and plentiful. It is the consistency of raw egg white.
What follows are few more comments, from www.FertilityAuthority.com, about aspects of the cervix, or neck of the uterus, during various phases of your cycle. When the cervix is said to be “high,” it is up toward the top of the vagina, and may be hard to reach with your fingertips. When the cervix is said to be “low,” in the vagina, it is hanging down like a nose, and it’s bulbar shape can be felt by your fingertips. During the fertile phase, the cervix is open, high up in your vagina, if not seeming to have disappeared, and soft, like your lips. The acronym to remember the aspects of the cervix, during the fertile phase, is SHOW, or soft, high, open, and wet. During the non-fertile phase, the cervix is low, closed, and hard, like your nose. Essentially, during ovulation the “os” or the door, if you will, of the cervix opens to allow sperm in to fertilize the egg, that has been released into the fallopian tubes. The os is closed, at other times in the cycle. Your body is designed to always try to get you pregnant. Once you are pregnant, the os will close firmly, for many months, during your baby’s gestation.
The Red tent sisters explain that you ovulate one day a month, but your fertile phase lasts 5 days. How can this be? Sperm can live inside the female body for 5 days. So if sperm arrives before ovulation, and then hangs around, until ovulation, the combined effect yields a 5 day window of fertility. The sperm either fertilizes an egg, or dies waiting for ovulation to occur. In guestimating the fertile phase, the Red Tent sisters claim that is highly important to consider together what both the male, and female bring to the party regarding fertility. What really counts is the combined effect!
By tracking basal body temperature (BBT), cervical position and texture, and cervical mucus, the Sedgewicks contend women can know when to avoid sex, to avoid an unwanted pregnancy, or have sex, in order to achieve conception, and pregnancy. The Red Tent Sisters explain that this is the Justisse System, and note the Justisse app is on its way. The Sedgewick sisters suggest that this method can be used in combination with other methods of contraception, such as condoms to avoid pregnancy, and sexually transmitted diseases. To learn more from the Sedgewicks, go to their website www.RedTentSisters.com.
In summary, you can track daily, various bodily signs of your cycle, to figure out when the fertile part of your cycle occurs. To gain powerful information, about when to have sex, in order to get pregnant, record your basal body temperature (BBT), and cervical discharge daily, as well as the aspects of your cervix. If you get used to doing this to avoid pregnancy, you will be ahead of the game, when you actually want to get pregnant. You will already have discovered, the signs of your fertile phase, and will know when to have sex, to create a baby.
You will know that during your fertile phase, 1) your basal body temperature (BBT) rises slightly, 2) your cervix is soft, high, open, and wet, and 3) there is a lot of stretchy and clear Spinbarkite mucus present. These are all healthy signs that your body working, just as it is designed, and is trying to get you pregnant!
I hope this next attempt, leads to the result you are looking for,
Lisa J Lafave, PhD, MBA, ACC, BCC
CEO & Founder of Coaching Rocks
The Fertility Coach at Coaching Rocks
A Single Mom By Choice Raising Surrogacy Twin Boys
Written in My Little Brick in University Heights, Ohio
Your destiny, your purpose, your dream baby!
So you are trying to fulfill your destiny, but you are having challenges. I’ll tell you what, you are not the first woman, or first man, who has had trouble creating a baby! Your baby is on its way. It’s just taking a bit longer than you expected. Hang in there. Keep trying and keep your chin up. You know what they say. Everything in its own time. Your baby too will come when the time is right, or when the stars they are aligned.
The more you can hold onto the idea that a baby will be yours in the future, the more likely you are to ride that emotional roller coaster well. Remember in this day and age, you can bring a baby home, a number of ways.
If you keep yourself open to having a baby via alternate means, you are more than likely to raise a child, in your future. It’s really true. Science has really progressed. No one really needs to be childless these days.
You can do many things to try to enhance that fertile journey. You can eat better. You can exercise more. You can reduce toxins in your home environment. You can also work on reducing anxiety, and stress. You can strive for balance. There are multiple apps out there, that you can use to help you with each one of these endeavors.
In an attempt to cool out, you could take a yoga class, or learn how to meditate, or maybe just take your honey and go on awesome well deserved vacation. If a big vacation is out of the question, how about a mini one, for a long weekend. If flying to some amazing destination is not in the cards, how about a trip, just a hour or so, away from home. Just getting into new surroundings can do you a world of good. It can take the edge off, and allow you to proceed toward the next logical step, that just might bring a darling little baby into your world.
One thing you want to try to avoid is being in so much angst, because you don’t have your baby, that you can’t enjoy the things you do have. When you are childless, you are footloose and fancy free! Once you have that baby, you will never again be unencumbered. You will always have responsibility, and you will always be looking out for the well-being of your child. Their needs always come first and foremost.
If this is your first baby, then you have never been through a sleepless night, nursing your feverish baby. You’ve never had to drop everything at work, and run to the school, because your child is vomiting. You’ve never had to cancel plans, because the babysitter isn’t going to know how to deal with the awful stomach pains and diarrhea your child has. You just go out on the town, unless you or your date is feeling under the weather. It’s just so simple. Again, footloose and fancy free. Enjoy it while it lasts!
If it’s time to enlarge your family, you have a good idea of what you are getting yourself into. Remember, you will never again have the same amount of time for the children you already have. Enjoy these precious moments. You will never pass this way again. It just might be that it’s your destiny to have a larger family. You may not feel fulfilled, until your family grows to a certain size. Some parents just love having little ones around, and will take as many as they can get their arms around.
I know of one woman, who was trying to conceive her ninth child in her mid- forties. She just wasn’t done, and she was sure of it. She had a mad hankering for another baby, and her spouse felt the same way. So the two of them were at it, until one came along. And you know what? By George, they had a healthy little boy. So I say, “God Bless them!” It’s none of my business how many children they have. Yet some people were giving them a really hard time about stretching their budget, and their other resources once again. These people felt like it was their mission to keep this couple from procreating again. Some people. Anyway, with the ninth baby, this couple finally felt complete.
How large anybody’s family is is a very personal matter. Others would say it’s up to God, and leave it at that. When you think about it, what is the right size family for you? Do you want the same size, as the family you grew up in? Or do you have some different plans? How will family size affect your life, as the head of the family? Do you, and your spouse have similar plans? Heck, I hope so. If you want 10, and he wants 2, it just might create some marital conflict. Hopefully, you came to some mutual agreement, on this matter, before the nuptials.
Do you have any sense about what the spread of ages from top to bottom should be, between your eldest and youngest, and how quickly the children should come along in between? Some have children like stair steps, one after the next. Others like to have a child every three years, to give the youngest a bit of time, before a sibling comes along, and literally takes their spot in Mama’s lap.
I knew one woman who had 8 children in 9 years. Sounds wild. However, she had two sets of twins which meant 6 pregnancies in 9 years, not 8. Still it would entirely rock my world to have no children and then 8, 9 years later.
I know it seems a little funny TT is think about having so many children, when you are having difficulty creating just one. But once you crack the code, the sky may be the limit. You just have to figure out how to have that first one, and then just rinse and repeat!
So even if you are having challenges, know that a baby can be yours, in this lifetime. We just have to figure out how to get you one! Your are not living in dark ages. There are plenty of methods to help you create your own baby, and there are ways of using others’ DNA, if you can’t use yours or your partner’s. There is also adoption, international adoption and foster to adopt. So cheer up, a baby is surely on the way for you, if you want one badly enough.
Once you have one baby, you can consider whether or not you want to grow your family. It’s awfully nice for your precious little one to have a sibling. Children learn so much from their brothers and sisters. Why don’t you make sure to get one for your little baby?
If you stick with it, I’m sure your destiny will be fulfilled. In fulfilling your destiny, you will create a more purposeful life. Research suggests that purpose creates happiness. Show me a man or a woman with purpose, and I will show you a happy person. First, let’s get that baby in your arms, so you can go home!
Never Give Up the Dream,
Lisa J Lafave, PhD, eMBA, ACC, BCC
CEO & Founder of Coaching Rocks
The Fertility Coach at Coaching Rocks
Single Mom By Choice Raising Surrogacy Twin Boys
Written in My Little Brick in University Heights, Ohio
Your Reward Is Your Baby
I know you feel like you are doing a lot of hard work, to get your baby. And I know that it so very disappointing every month, that the pregnancy test shows you did not conceive, and did not achieve your objective. I know it is even worse, when you did conceive, and the baby didn’t stick. And worse yet, when you get further along your journey and miscarry. These loses are all traumatic. But you must get through these loses to get to the actual baby, that is meant to be your forever baby.
I know for some the natural conception thing is not meant to be. You may wrestle with that idea quite a bit. We all quite naturally want our own child, coming from our own DNA. But sometimes it just can’t happen, and if you are in this boat you will have to decide what is best for you, 1) no baby at all, or 2) if you have the financial wherewithall, you might pick IVF, with someone else’s DNA, or 3) you might even choose to farm the whole process out, and have a baby through surrogacy, or 4) you might prefer to go the adoption route, and help out a child, who has no parent at the ready. If you choose adoption, you will have to decide what to focus on, domestic adoption, international adoption or foster to adopt. Once you decide where you belong, you can move through your next paces. They may not be easy, but you can work on what is before you, in order to bring your dream baby home.
No matter what option you pick, Coaching Rocks can be at your side, to urge you on, and help you through your process. You could work with someone one on one, or in a group. You can contact us and arrange a complimentary Discovery Call to see if you feel like Coaching Rocks is the right coaching resource for you.
Never forget your dream baby is at the end of the road! When you do conceive, and it sticks, and the pregnancy goes well, your reward is a darling little baby boy, or baby girl, or maybe even both! You will be on the top of the world. You’ll want to sing it out to the moon and the stars! Your dream baby has arrived.
Who wouldn’t be delighted with a baby, with a darling little nose, a smile like your partner’s, and eyebrows like your father’s? This baby is indeed your reward for all the extra effort and all the labor you went through to bring this baby home, not matter what the method. It’s truly amazing how often adopted children, or surrogacy babies, with no DNA in common with their parents, can grow to look like their family members.
Once you have your baby, and care for your baby, it truly does not matter to you how you came by your child. You take the child as your own. People often place far to much emphasis on DNA.
How many of you are animal lovers? How many actually have animals? You don’t have any DNA in common with your pet, be it a dog, a cat, a snake, a goat, or a bunny rabbit. But you still may have a deep love for your animal. You may have a trusting, and fun loving relationship with that animal, that does not depend on a DNA connection.
I use beloved pets, as an example, because they are family. They are a close second to children. We care about how they feel. We care about the quality of their day. We want them to have a satisfied tummy and a good night’s sleep. We take them on outtings with us. They are there for us, when we low. We spend our good times, and our bad times with them. They know us best. We intervene, as best we can, when our animals are sick, and we grieve, when they die. Oh how we grieve! There is really nothing like losing a trusted pet.
Rightly or wrongly, many of us treat our animals like family, or like children. Many of us even refer to our beloved pets, as our babies, or our fur babies. In fact, it makes no difference to us that they are a different species. We actually relish in the differences. We don’t need them to be from the same tribe as ours to love them with the intensity that we do. I believe the love comes from the relationship. I believe you love what, and who you care for, DNA aside.
Interestingly, many of you probably coupled up, moved in together, and then got a dog, or a cat. Your fur baby was your first baby, your first commitment. Your first attempt at keeping a beloved other alive, through thick and thin, right in the the midst of all of your other obligations. It was kind of like your “starter baby.” If that went well, and you could negotiate with one another, about how to take care of that family member, maybe you felt like you just might be ready for a real live bouncing baby boy or girl. That dog or cat may have been the guinea pig, to see if the two of you could work together well enough to take care of that pet. That pet may have been a harbinger of things to come, more specifically, babies to come.
Have you ever noticed how some people get married, and divorce just before you thought they might have that first baby? Well, fortunately, they figured out they weren’t matched well, and were not up to the task of parenting a child together, so they split up, before they had one. In my estimation, they weren’t up for the big commitment of having a child together. Marriage, and having a house, and a pet together were one thing, but having a child together is the real commitment.
Most of you reading this are ready for that child, singly, or coupled up, you want that baby now. My point in bringing up the animals is just to remind you that, if you can’t use your own DNA, you will still be able to fall in love deeply, with your child. It really can be okay. It really can be no big deal. It all depends on how you decide to view it.
Once you have that baby that you’ve dreamed about for so long, you are off to the races! It’s one bottle or one breastfeeding moment after the next, and one burping session after the next, and then one diaper after the next. You’ll be doing one bath after the next, one clothing change after the next, and so on, and so forth. You and your baby will be giggling and smiling at one another in no time. You will be continually showing off your baby to family and friends, and even to strangers, or passerbys. Your baby will become your pride and joy. As the days pass by, you will fall deeply in love, with your little treasure. He or she will be the apple of your eye, and the fruit of your labor. I think you will agree that this little angel was worth all the bother after all. All those trials and tribulations will seem quite trivial, when you have that little one sitting in your lap, or snuggling in your arms, about to slip off to sleep.
Next thing you know, you will be going to outings at the local playground, Mommy and Me Meetups, swimming lessons, gymnastics, and music classes. You will be so fully immersed in your new life with your baby, you will hardly even remember what life was like, without your little one.
So remember, your dream baby is your reward, for all the hard work that you must do to get that baby, and bring him, or her home, to the little nest you have so carefully prepared.
Never Forget the Dream and Leap Into Action!
Lisa J Lafave, PhD, eMBA, ACC, BCC
CEO & Founder of Coaching Rocks
The Fertility Coach At Coaching Rocks
Single Mother by Choice of Surrogacy Twin Boys
Written In My Little Brick in University Hts, Ohio